I've been living in the on-line dating world for awhile. Everything about me wants to rebel against this strange way to meet guys and maybe even find romance. But there actually doesn't seem to be too many alternatives. Generally it can be a lot fun. I like the dating part and meeting new people. I'm not too nervous because I don't take it too seriously. But when I do, I seem to get myself into trouble. Why?
Growing up hippy, I never learned manspeak. So I actually thought that when a guy says: "I need some space because of life issues" he was saying "I need some space because of life issues." And when he said: "It's not you. It's me." he meant "It's not you. It's me."
I really truly did not know it meant: "Two days ago I thought I loved you, but guess not. Bye."
When did it become so difficult to just say: "You are cool. I am cool. But the relationship probably isn't. Let's split and discover new adventures."
Come on, that can't be all that hard. Why don't guys just say what they mean? Or maybe they don't know. Hmmm...
And how can you go from 100% in to 100% out in one breath? Doesn't it take time to get over someone you have shared your body, heart and mind with?
And wouldn't you actually like to be friends with an ex-lover? I would.
These are men I truly liked or I would not spend time with them. Romance is cool. But I really really adore my guy friends.
So why exactly do these splits need to be so clean? Isn't life supposed to be sort of messy?
As you can hear, I've got way more questions than answers about this whole dating/romance/who knows thing.